and deeply insecure.
The orderly with a
seeming lack of ambi-
tion maybe was told
repeatedly by a parent
that he would never
amount to anything. An
excessively demanding
patient may have suf-
fered a recent loss of a
loved one and is looking
for solace from a poten-
tial healer.
Imagine the compro-
mised abilities a sur-
geon may bring to a
long day of cases when
last evening's spat with
a spouse still lingers on
his mind. How present
can a scrub nurse be
when she's lugging
around the pain of yes-
terday's obnoxious sur-
geon? When we carry
around old hurts, we
have less to give our
family, friends and patients.
OSM
Dr. Kelly (johndak4@gmail.com) is an orthopedic surgeon/sports-shoulder
specialist who practices in Philadelphia, Pa.
M A R C H 2 0 1 7 • O U T PA T I E N TS U R G E R Y. N E T • 1 3 7
• Acknowledge the problem. An unfor-
giving posture exacts quite a toll on
your health and joy.
• Practice mindfulness. When we are
present, former hurts
are vanquished.
• Own your stuff. Whatever pushes your
buttons holds the key to healing old
childhood wounds.
• Be a love finder, not a fault finder.
Looking for the good in others will dis-
sipate all that may irk you in that per-
son.
• Practice compassion. By seeing the
world through another's eyes, you'll
usually find the reasons behind offen-
sive behavior.
Forgive and Forget
• LET IT GO Forgiving someone who has
hurt you means you're letting go of the pain.
Pamela
Bevelhymer,
RN,
BSN
